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Topic: The Positives of ADHD

December 3rd 2013 Meeting Notes for the Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group

Return to Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group Previous Notes Page

 

 

Facilitator: Pete Quily

Thanks for Christopher Stanbury, and Jean for taking notes.

The Positives of ADHD

How ADHD helps in your daily life. The positives (and negatives) of ADHD

 

Structure:

1. The Negatives of ADHD- The more conscious you are of the negatives, the more you are able to counter them and sometimes turn them into positives

2. Positives of ADHD

3. Ways to manage ADHD

4. Ways to flip the negatives of ADHD to positive

 

1. The Negatives of ADHD- The more conscious you are of the negatives, the more you are able to counter them and sometimes turn them into positives

 

ADHD come in three subtypes - inattentive, hyperactive and combined.

If you have a high IQ and are inattentive you might coast through high school, even college, and then crash when you get your first job.

Scattered thoughts & talking - get interested in other things

Moody possibly

Bored easily

Mood extremes - could indicate bi-polar

Anxiety - ADHD rarely travels alone

Careless at work on details (on stuff that doesn't interest us / we don't like doing)

Less likely to consider how what you say affects others

Over estimate ability

Under estimate time required

Low self esteem - question yourself - am I worthy? - fear not worthy

Denial

 

2. Positives of ADHD

 

Creativity

Thinking outside the box

Do not suffer fools gladly

Seeing the bigger picture

Not boring

Empathy

Greater focus re safety

If hyper-focused may achieve more - time management

Self-centered - is there a test - possibly

 

3. Ways to manage ADHD

 

Rationalise - do not be so repressed

Move on to other things - more interest

Read "Seth Godwin"

Use your energy wisely - harvest it

Calmly question anxiety - May reveal problems

Do not deny anxiety -

positive stress test - McGonigal

Look at the bigger picture - maybe relegate details to others,

no analysis creates paralysis

Do the things you want to do - don't be a martyr

People pleasing boosts dopamine

Push boundaries / limits

Be willing to take a calculated risk to achieve more

Google the positives (151) and negatives (63) of ADHD

Narcissist protection - think of others less self-absorbed

narcissism 2nd only to procrastination

fuel for motivation

NPD sometimes confused with ADHD

A lot of politicians have ADHD

Anxiety Disorders come in 4 types:

1. Generalised Anxiety Disorder

2. Social Anxiety Disorder

3. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - EMDR is used to treat PTSD

4. Phobias

 

4. Ways to flip the negatives of ADHD to positive

 

Be conscious of the negatives vs beating yourself up & self shaming over them

Use it as a catalyst, as fuel

Focus on strengths

Set up a system - if this - then that

Use alarms

Acceptance. You can't change what you first don't accept. Acceptance reduces resistence and friction to action

Get out of denial

Use a visual calendar if you're a visual learner

Plan effectively for you vs your organized friend or family member

Reduce stress - if stress is not the cause, it makes the problem worse

Deal with problems now - get into action

Perfectionism can be a problem - take healthy breaks

When out of dopamine, it is time to stop working

 

 

 

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