Topic: Wish Lists Vs. Realistic To Do Lists And Reality Filters
May 17th 2016 Meeting Notes for the Pete Quily's Talk At The CHADD Vancouver ADHD Support Group
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Thanks to Amy for taking the notes.
Wish Lists Vs. Realistic To Do Lists. I do these with my adult ADHD coaching clients a lot. They find them practical and useful.
See also my blog post Delusional To Do Lists VS Realistic To Do Lists For ADHD Adults.
Disadvantages of Undoable to do lists
Thoughts get lost in transit
Forget your haha to do list
Not sure how much I can do
Important vs. Urgent
Breaking things down
Not clear on responsibilities
Wishes vs. Actual Tasks
No actual time/deadline.
Benefits of Doable to do lists?
Time spent worrying & anxiety/stress
Less continual crisis and chaos
Focus on what is really important
More likely to do them - helps with other habits
Be able to truly relax
Good role model for kids
Reigns you in from distractibility
Reality Filters (know what you are really saying yes to)
Secondary Processing is next to Godliness whether your God is God God or the flying spaghetti monster or anything in between.
The first draft of your to do list is a wish list. Not a realistic to do list. Do this first and then do a second draft by asking some of these reality filters or your own reality filter questions to make your list more realistic and more doable so you are more productive and less stressed and frustrated.
David G Allen - G.T.D suggests to create a Someday/Maybe list or Possibilities list.
Every new idea or thought goes on the Someday maybe list that isn’t absolutely important or dire.
Commit to reviewing Someday Maybe list at least 1-2 times a week, and picking one item and running some reality filters to it to see if it is worthy of your time and life energy and worth putting on your task list or to do list.
Not every reality filter will be applicable to each project or task, but the cost of you not asking them, might mean undone tasks, procrastination, stress, guilt, and frustration.
You can modify delete some of these or add your own to customize this for you.
10 Reality Filters.
1. Is this a task or a project? Break it down into doable tasks for you. If it involves multiple steps you are unclear on, it is a project.
2. Estimate time - Add ADHD delusion multiple. Time how long it will take.
3. How much energy will it take? Ex: Mental in am/Physical in pm. Do the task when you will be most successful?
4. How much money will it take
5. Do I need to do something to prepare before doing it? Is there something that comes ahead of it?
6 a) What possible obstacles might be in the way to finishing it?
b) How can I deal with these obstacles?
7. Is there any support I can get?
8. Do I need to learn any skills?
9. Can someone else do this? Hire? Pay? Barter?
10. Is it in line with my strengths and values? Why am I doing this?