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Topic: How To Relax During And After The Working Day To Recharge The Often Over Reving ADHD Brain And Body

March 2013 Meeting Notes for the Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group

Return to Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group Previous Notes Page


Facilitator: Pete Quily.

Thanks to Christopher Stanbury for taking the notes.

Topic: How To Relax During And After The Working Day To Recharge The Often Over Reving ADHD Brain And Body.

1. How besides booze, drugs, food, TV, computers, the internet, & sleep do you relax? What activities do you do that relaxes you? (daily basis)

2. How do you feel after you’ve done it?

3. How often do you do it?

4. Do you record you did it?

5. Benefits of relaxation


  • Relieve stress
  • More productive after
  • Clarity
  • Relieve tension
  • More able to think
  • Manage energy
  • Pull out of hyperfocus
  • Adds structure to the day
  • Lowers Cortisol
  • Fewer mistakes
  • Creativity

Schedule time to relax

6. Costs of not scheduling time to relax – make it happen

  • With no schedule life becomes unstructured
  • A schedule provides an anchor.
  • Less likely to do unhealthy things
  • Less likely to waste time
  • More likely to reduce unhealthy activities
  • Schedule time to stop
  • Book end of relax time
  • Relaxing is not wasting time
  • “Sonic grenade”
  • You need willingness to chance
  • Up for days at a time could be bi-polar
  • More likely to get out of a good routine and into a bad routine
  • Higher level of other pain and stress issues
  • More irritable
  • More mistakes
  • Burn out
  • Less productive
  • Denial of stress
  • Denial of the need to relax
  • Lack of awareness
  • Lack of priorities
  • Take NON electronic breaks

7. Why do ADDers have more problems relaxing?

  • No need for shame or guilt for ADD.
  • Denial (or minimization) of their ADD symptoms
  • Racing brain
  • Forgetful
  • Distractible
  • Destructive behaviour
  • Lack of self-awareness
  • Hyperactivity (of body or mind) (re relaxation)
  • Rumination (negative hyperfocus)
  • Boredom
  • Chaos – chaotic environment
  • Need for variety (important)
  • Denial of reality
  • Difficulty planning
  • Difficulty staying on task
  • Disorganisation
  • Parents with ADHD
  • Confusion – where do I start?

If you have ADD you are very likely to have other conditions such as anxiety, depression, or bi-polar disorder.

8. Examples of relaxing activities (short term)

  • Reading
  • Breathing
  • Hot bath – especially before sleep
  • Yoga breathing
  • Do one thing on To Do list
  • Sauna
  • Cardio (any exercise) only allowed to wear iPod while on treadmill
  • Animals
  • Gardening
  • Make a list of things that you want to do.
  • Make a list of things that you don’t want to do.
  • Creative writing
  • Art outlet
  • Outdoor activity
  • Have a cup of hot water
  • Aroma therapy
  • Play a musical instrument

Try some of these out for a finite amount of time.

9. How to plan and remind yourself to relax

  • Have a goal (time, place, result)
  • Use alarms to start and stop
  • Reward for achieving something (motivation)
  • Specific time
  • Have a friend to remind & encourage you
  • Internet reminders
  • Create a habit
  • Become part of routine
  • Develop self-awareness
  • Check list
  • Use Joes Goals
  • Have leisure goals Google “wheel of life”
  • Keep track of what you are really doing
  • Time log
  • Places GPS location alarm
  • Schedule

10. What gets in the way of relaxing?

  • How will you deal with the obstacle?
  • What will you do to relax?
  • When will you do it?
  • How will you remember to do it?


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