ADHD Relationship Articles

Some people think ADHD problems are just in school and at work and finance. False. I coach some ADHD adults just on their problems with relationships, since they have highly stimulating jobs, an assistant or 2 to do the boring work or have learned how to do it well enough themselves.

ADHD and Codependency

By Kathy J. Marshack White. “Some with ADHD have underdeveloped social skills, the major one being empathy. The way the spouse of the ADHD partner often copes with this lack of empathy is to become codependent which leads to micromanagement.”

ADHD and Relationships: Communication is the Key!

Two therapists talk about how ADD can affect relationships and give some practical suggestions to increase effective communication.

Does your Spouse have ADD? 25 Quick Tips On ADD in Couples

By Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and John J. Ratey, M.D. As the title sounds.

Emotions How ADHD Adults Can Recognize, Feel, And Manage Them

From my Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group Meeting Notes, Adult ADHD Issues. Covers: Why do ADDer’s often have more problems with emotions than Non-ADDers? How can you get better at recognizing your emotions at their early stages? How can you get better at feeling your emotions fully? How can you get better at managing emotions more skillfully

Fatherhood and ADHD

By Patrick J. Kilcarr, Ph.D and Patricia O. Quinn, M.D. Talks about how to understand raise and discipline your child with ADD.

Feeling Ignored – The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna

By Melissa Orlov. So, what does it feel like to be married to a person with ADHD when you do not have it yourself? What are some of the basic patterns? Here’s an overview of the cycle

For Men with ADHD Who Aren’t Convinced it Matters

By Melissa Olov. “At least two men I can think of who have ADHD say they wish someone (other than their wives) had “hit them upside the head” with information that would convince them that their ADHD was causing real problems. They could have saved themselves divorce (in both cases), many personal problems and saved their wives a great deal of hurt. So here’s one attempt at doing just that.”

How Adult ADHD Affects Relationships: Strategies for Coping

By Melinda White. She talks about the different ways ADHD can impact relationships and lists 13 strategies to cope more effectively with ADHD relationships.

How To Listen More Effectively For ADHD Adults

From my Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group Meeting Notes. Covers: The benefits and costs of not listening effectively, barriers to listening, how feeling  affect listening. Listening is not the same as hearing, what makes listening better? Verbal, and non-verbal signs.

How Untreated ADHD Can Affect Our Relationships

By Gina Pera. “This list of most-problematic “hot spots”—again, primarily found among those refusing diagnosis and treatment—is not for the faint of heart.”

ParentCop vs. ParentCoach: Repairing The Tear In Parenting Styles

By Dr. Steven Richfield. Talks about a different way to parent. “Parentcops are too quick to haul kids in for questioning, sentencing, and punishing. Yelling, idle threats of very serious consequences, and other intimidation tactics also fall within the reactionary repertoire of parentcops. But interestingly, I’ve found that too much of the parentcop approach usually backfires: it actually produces more rule breaking on the part of kids because of the reservoir of anger that policing leaves inside of them.”

Parents Of Children With ADHD Are 24 Times More Likely To Have ADHD Themselves Study

Denial is common with ADHD men but also with ADHD women too. If a child has ADHD I think both parents should be screened for adult ADHD.

“The evidence is dramatic and the message clear: we need to treat the whole family, not just the child… Our study suggests that when there are problems in the family, you need to address those too.”

Child ADHD+ODD/CD was associated with maternal mood disorders, anxiety disorders, and stimulant/cocaine dependence, and paternal childhood disruptive behavior disorders ( ODD, Conduct Disorder). Mothers of children with ADHD+ODD/CD also reported increased drinking problems in their children’s fathers.”

Relationship Issues for Adults with ADHD

By Robert M. Tudisco. An ADD male living whose been married for nearly eleven years to “the most NON of the non-AD/HD spouses” talks about some of the issues ADDers may face.

Signs You’re Getting Emotionally Triggered And How To Handle It.

From my Vancouver Adult ADD Support Group Meeting Notes. Covers: Triggers/Warning Signs of emotional overload and  Possible ways to deal with highly charged emotional situations/ Emotional control.

Solutions for Intimacy Problems for Adults with ADHD

By Richard B. Austin, Jr., Ph.D. “The following three communication problems will be addressed: (1) not listening, (2) interrupting, and (3) not keeping promises. Probably the single most important issue to address is active, careful listening with a feedback loop to make sure the listener “gets” the speaker’s message.”

What Your Non-ADHD Spouse Wants You To Understand

ADDers often think they are misunderstood and sometimes they are. But what many ADDers don’t understand is the other side of the equation. What their ADHD spouse wants THEM to understand. Also check out the lively comments below the post.